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Mix Tape: The Evolution of a Wedding Song

Week 8: Our Song Can’t stick around for this week’s party??  Next week’s theme will be…  Your Car Jam And now… Wedding song. This should be a simple week, right? A simple write up. I shouldn’t even really have to write about it, right? Welcome to my life. I don’t do simple.  * * * SKIP AHEAD TO: It was so simple… the whole time.  FOR THE ABRIDGED VERSION * * *  Simple.  Husband (Then Boyfriend) and I fell in love...

The Christmas Wrap LP

I love wrapping presents. I take pride in every present I wrap. Each has ribbon that has been twirled ever so perfectly around the scissors, each has a stamp of love on it. I even place them perfectly under the tree so that every magnificent present can be seen in all it’s glory. I wrap a mean present. But some of the presents I remember most are the ones that were specially wrapped. The ones that weren’t tied with a...

Mix Tape: Titanium

(*vamos means let’s go in spanish) I leave my house at 11:10 every day. I leave my house at 11:10 every day because my kids’ nap time is at 11:00 am so I put my daughter down for her nap and the nanny puts my son down for his nap and then I’m out the door to work by 11:10. But yesterday was different. I had a job I was working on so I had to leave earlier.  As I...

Fighting the Good Fight: Part Two: Beware the Representative and Find your Allies

A couple of weeks back, I posted the first post in my series Fighting the Good Fight. The Good Fight is a war that I think many women secretly wage on themselves with the help of In Part One, I mentioned that my first step was enrolling in an e-course to help me accept my Gifts of Imperfection, to help me accept that “I’m imperfect, I’m enough.” I love self-help books but if I were completely honest, I always start...

Fighting the Good Fight: Part One: The Cause

Part One: The CauseIt’s been boiling and gurgling inside of me for some time now like a seedy little demon gremlin that’s been trying to rip through my belly like something out of Sigourney Weaver’s nightmares. I couldn’t quite put my finger on what it was… I’m still not sure I know entirely what it is. It’s not indigestion, I know that much. Indigestion goes away. This feeling has been ebbing and flowing like a tide, some days higher than...

Sketch Ourselves Beautiful

When I was student teaching a number of years back I wanted to be a part of a club that another teacher was forming called the Girls’ Leadership Group. We started with only 8th grade girls and chose about 30 to join the group. Some girls we chose because they were confident. Some girls we chose because they needed confidence. Some girls were athletes. Some were academics. Some were leaders. Some were followers. The point of the club was to...

Goodwill Towards Men

Whenever people say to me that they don’t like Christmas, they follow it by saying that it is a Hallmark holiday designed by retailers for you to spend money that you shouldn’t spend on gifts you don’t need. Creating a Christmas list might seem to fall in line with this thinking. Wanting something for Christmas might give these skeptics some support. Black Friday does no help to dismiss what Christmas Haters believe, especially when you see fights breaking out at Victoria’s Secret...

Being Us First

I read an article I just haven’t been able to stop thinking about. “I’m Not a ‘Mother First” is an article written by Jessica Valenti for The Nation‘s online magazine. To be upfront, part of what I liked so much about this article was that I agree with it and have voiced my own personal concern for this idea; the idea that now that I am a mother, I must somehow give up my Individual Identity Card and pick up my...

My Total Truths: #3 Change Doesn’t Make Everyone Happy… and It Doesn’t Have To

My Total Truths #3: Change Doesn’t Make Everyone Happy… Nor Should It Years ago I was talking to a close friend about her unhappiness with certain relationships. It seemed that she had been looking inward and wanted to cut out her best self, as Oprah cleverly puts it, and was taking a good look at the things that brought her up and the things that didn’t.  She understood that changes would have to be made and that many changes would...

My Total Truths: #2 Cut Your Losses

# 2 Cut Your Losses “In the clearing stands a boxer, And a fighter by his trade And he carries the reminders Of ev’ry glove that laid him down Or cut him til he cried out In his anger and his shame ‘I am leaving, I am leaving’ But the fighter still remains.”                                           – Simon & Garfunkel    ...