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Being Us First

I read an article I just haven’t been able to stop thinking about. “I’m Not a ‘Mother First” is an article written by Jessica Valenti for The Nation‘s online magazine. To be upfront, part of what I liked so much about this article was that I agree with it and have voiced my own personal concern for this idea; the idea that now that I am a mother, I must somehow give up my Individual Identity Card and pick up my...

My Total Truths: #3 Change Doesn’t Make Everyone Happy… and It Doesn’t Have To

My Total Truths #3: Change Doesn’t Make Everyone Happy… Nor Should It Years ago I was talking to a close friend about her unhappiness with certain relationships. It seemed that she had been looking inward and wanted to cut out her best self, as Oprah cleverly puts it, and was taking a good look at the things that brought her up and the things that didn’t.  She understood that changes would have to be made and that many changes would...

My Total Truths: #2 Cut Your Losses

# 2 Cut Your Losses “In the clearing stands a boxer, And a fighter by his trade And he carries the reminders Of ev’ry glove that laid him down Or cut him til he cried out In his anger and his shame ‘I am leaving, I am leaving’ But the fighter still remains.”                                           – Simon & Garfunkel    ...

My Total Truths: #1 Create a New Life

# 1 – If you don’t like the life you’re living, create a new one. I watched “Bridesmaids” the other night for the first time – I know I am super late – and while I loved the main character, Annie – because c’mon, it’s Kristin Wiig – I couldn’t help but feel sorry and annoyed at how little control her character had over her own life. She was a “victim” and didn’t want to accept that she was the problem,...

My Total Truths: #5 When Dogs Become the First Borns

My Total Truths: a series based a list of things that I know to be true and have served as mini life lessons in my experience.    # 5 – Dogs Make Good Pets but Even Better Children. When I got pregnant everyone kept telling me that the dogs would become less important because now I would have a real baby that would need taking care of. They would look at poor Jersey and tell him as he was getting picked up in my...