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How to Make New Friends: 8 Ways to Put Yourself Out There

How f*cking hard is it to make new friends? I mean, other than college where a lifelong friendship can be forged over your love of Dave Matthews and cheap beer, making new friends could be really intimidating. Watching my child walk away from the playground with his head hung low is a reminder of that. Friends with teenagers talk about it and say the same thing. And most adults would agree. Walking up to a group of kids at the playground...

When the Past Punches You in the Heart

For any of you that have moved, you know there is the whole rainbow of emotions that comes with relocating and I knew our move to Mexico would include every f*cking color. I anticipated tears and emotional discord as we took down our life in the Dominican Republic and rebuilt it in Mexico. We knew with certainty that we’d be bleeding money these first few months of settling in. I assumed the kids would be shy and unsure of new friendships...

We All Need a Tribe: How To Find One and Why You Need One

If you look at an island for what it is, it’s a piece of land, surrounded by water that stands alone. There’s no united of states or neighboring unions. It just floats in the middle of the ocean, somewhat disconnected from the rest of the world. Being a writer feels a lot like that. Heck, being an adult feels a lot like that. It couldn’t be further from college days when meeting a new friend was simple arithmetic: 1 beer + 1 mutual laugh...

My Quest for Proper Pajamas

In my quest for adultness, I decided a while ago that I wanted to become a proper pajamas person. No more ratty old t-shirts with mismatched bottoms. No sir. A respectable mom adult wears luxurious PJs. Silky? yes, please. Flowy? Absolutely. Let’s be honest, we spend so much time in pajamas on the weekends that I want to wake up and hang around the house feeling like a 1950’s movie star. So I took my pajama game to Oysho*. I had...

Seize the Yes and the Rest Will Happen

I want to tell you a quick story – not just about saying YES but the importance in continuing to say it. This story goes way back to August 2016 when Riselle of The Traveling Island Girl, who I knew only from Women Who Live on Rocks and social media, was visiting Santo Domingo. She reached out and asked if I’d be interested in meeting up with a fellow island gal. I said yes. I brought a friend, she brought a...

Finding Adventure After Kids

There’s something about saying yes right away, without overthinking that makes me not want to change my mind, Yes propels you forward, cannonballs you into life. And life, with its flash floods, push-ups, and bugs, is exactly what I don’t want to miss. –  Melanie Gideon (author of  Wife 22) When I was in my 20’s I would seek out fun and adventure like an infrared camera. If there was any movement nearby, I’d catch it. Finding adventure was easy:...

Another Birthday, Another Chapter

I’ve never been one to shy away from my age. If someone asks, I don’t blush with embarrassment or scold the inappropriateness of asking a lady such a question, or think Good grief, another birthday? Why would I? I’m not embarrassed of my age or of the life I’ve built in that time. And saying that age ain’t nothing but a number couldn’t be further from the truth either; it’s much much more than just a number. Age is another chapter in our story, a...

Ask for the Moon: My Intention for 2016…Finally

Last year’s New Year’s intention was all about finding success, about leaving behind that crappy sense of failure that lurks in your dark mind corners and looking at all of my accomplishments as things to celebrate – no matter how small. And it worked. When I started looking at things through the scope of success, they became successes… or they became successes because I was looking at them through the scope of success. Chicken or the egg. I can’t be sure...