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We All Need a Tribe: How To Find One and Why You Need One

If you look at an island for what it is, it’s a piece of land, surrounded by water that stands alone. There’s no united of states or neighboring unions. It just floats in the middle of the ocean, somewhat disconnected from the rest of the world. Being a writer feels a lot like that. Heck, being an adult feels a lot like that. It couldn’t be further from college days when meeting a new friend was simple arithmetic: 1 beer + 1 mutual laugh...

The Crossroads of Deal Breakers and Settling

” He was tall, handsome, a pilot…and he talked through every movie we went to. I just couldn’t do it anymore.” – Lisa Hachey   After just writing about this not long ago on Expat Village, imagine my inner giggle when I opened up the next question in the queue of questions that I’ve been answering to find “What’s Your Deal Breaker?” Recently, I wrote about how dating my Husband helped me to get past deal breakers, alluding to the idea that...

Am I With the Right Person?

“In Yiddish, there’s a word for it: bashert. The meaning is something like “intended”: the person who was meant for you. We’re not talking about a soul mate, though modern usage often spins it that way; the original meaning is more complicated. Your bashert won’t always make you happy, and your life together won’t always be easy. But there’s a sense of rightness, of having landed where you’re supposed to be.” – Julie Orringer Author of The Invisible Bridge   I...

How We Could Learn Friendship from The Cow and the Egret

Quick Link: The Unlikeliest of Friends When talking to our kids about making friends it is important that we talk to them not just about how to make friends but also about what kinds of friends to make. If we take a page from the cow and the egret we could teach ourselves and our children that sometimes the best friendships come from the unlikeliest of places and that fitting in isn’t as important as finding friends that will have...

How I Met Your (Mother) Father

The Huffington Post put out a challenge: Tell your love story in one paragraph, How I Met Your Mother Style.  So, I gave it a try. Your father and I met in an elementary school copying room. Sometimes I wish I had something more romantic to tell; something to match our current world-wind, abroad teaching adventure but that’s all I’ve got. We met in a copying room. He entered with papers to copy and I thought this is the man I’m going...

A Love Letter about Bears, Fleas, and the Middle Finger

Dear Grandchildren, Love your grandparents. Love them now and love them hard. Love them ferociously. Love them like your hair is on fire and then love them some more. All of mine are gone. A fact I still don’t have a full grasp on. And maybe that’s a good thing because then it means that their absence is so vast that they were so important in my life that I’m not sure where to continue without them. I’ve lived 34...

I Am

Sometime in the beginning decades of the 20th century, The Times invited several esteemed authors and writers to write essays on the theme What is wrong with the world today? An influential author of the time, G.K. Chesterton, quite simply responded: Dear Sirs, I am. I learned this in this documentary that Husband and I watched. Directed by Tom Shadyac, director of comedic movies like Ace Ventura and Bruce Almighty, he uses occasional humor to deliver an age old message: We are all connected  ....

In Every Hallmark Way

Husband and I have never been much of a Valentine’s Day couple. Our first year together, I had one of his roommate’s sneak me in and I cooked a 3 course Seafood Extravaganza. I made him a musical photo montage cleverly called 333 Days for each day that we had lovingly spent together up until that point. And that would kinda be it as far as Valentine’s Day goes. Every year after that we haven’t given Valentine’s Day much thought. He decorated my...