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Finding Adventure After Kids

There’s something about saying yes right away, without overthinking that makes me not want to change my mind, Yes propels you forward, cannonballs you into life. And life, with its flash floods, push-ups, and bugs, is exactly what I don’t want to miss. –  Melanie Gideon (author of  Wife 22) When I was in my 20’s I would seek out fun and adventure like an infrared camera. If there was any movement nearby, I’d catch it. Finding adventure was easy:...

There Go the Fighters

Every life is an amalgam (a mixture or blend), and it is impossible to know what moments, what foibles, what charms will come to define us  once we’re gone. All we can do is live our lives fully, be authentically ourselves, and trust that the right things about us, the best and most fitting things will echo in the memories of us that endure… We are at the mercy of time, and for all the ways we are remembered, a...

You’ve Known This Since the Second Grade

“You’ve known the answer to that question since elementary school.” – Maureen Taylor (The next question I’m tackling in my Oprah inspired series:  20 Questions Every Woman Should Ask Themselves is this: What Do I Really Want to Do All Day?) Tap, tap, tap, delete, stare, type, delete, tap, stare, type, keep typing, delete… ping! return. For those of you younger than 25, the ping, return is the sound a typewriter makes (which I’ve used purely for theatrical purposes since I don’t write with a typewriter anymore)....

The Crossroads of Deal Breakers and Settling

” He was tall, handsome, a pilot…and he talked through every movie we went to. I just couldn’t do it anymore.” – Lisa Hachey   After just writing about this not long ago on Expat Village, imagine my inner giggle when I opened up the next question in the queue of questions that I’ve been answering to find “What’s Your Deal Breaker?” Recently, I wrote about how dating my Husband helped me to get past deal breakers, alluding to the idea that...

Am I With the Right Person?

“In Yiddish, there’s a word for it: bashert. The meaning is something like “intended”: the person who was meant for you. We’re not talking about a soul mate, though modern usage often spins it that way; the original meaning is more complicated. Your basherter won’t always make you happy, and your life together won’t always be easy. But there’s a sense of rightness, of having landed where you’re supposed to be.” – Julie Orringer Author of The Invisible Bridge  ...

Deaf Ears: Do You Care What People Think?

“…If I answer, ‘No, I don’t care what people think,’ I risk seeming arrogant. But if I answer, ‘Yes, I care too much about what people think,’ I risk seeming spineless.” – Elissa Schappell  (author of Blueprints for Building Better Girls) In truth, I’ve never been one for caring much of what others thought of me. In middle school and high school this served me well since peer pressure was a monster that scared others far more than it did...

But Why? Why Asking Ourselves Questions is Important.

“Have we established that questions are marvelous, momentous things?… That asking ourselves the right ones can have life-altering effects?” It had been 9 months since we had broken up; a break up that took a long time to move forward from. And then he was back. He missed me. He wanted to try again. I wanted to try again. So we were going to try again but it didn’t take long to figure out that he wanted to try again...