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Lessons from a Holocaust Survivor on International Women’s Day

I know so many brave people. Both of my parents are Cuban immigrants and made terrible sacrifices and took serious risks to escape dictatorship and build a better life. Most of my relatives have similar stories. Today, on International Women’s Day, as we celebrate the brave, bold, and beautiful women in our lives and around the world, I can say that I know one more. Yesterday, I had the privilege to hear and meet Mrs. Bronia Kraus, Mrs. B, as she is affectionately called,...

New Years Intention

Ask for the Moon: My Intention for 2016…Finally

Last year’s New Year’s intention was all about finding success, about leaving behind that crappy sense of failure that lurks in your dark mind corners and looking at all of my accomplishments as things to celebrate – no matter how small. And it worked. When I started looking at things through the scope of success, they became successes… or they became successes because I was looking at them through the scope of success. Chicken or the egg. I can’t be sure...

Labels we give expats

The Lame Labels We Give Expat Spouses

I’ve been giving a lot of thought lately to labels we give expats – women or men – who courageously decide to put their jobs or lives on hold to support their spouse’s work assignment in a different city: trailing spouse, expat wife, accompanying partner – and I gotta say, they all suck. I can say that because I am one. Not only is the lameness of these labels inaccurate (as if I trail behind my husband while he walks masculinely ahead...

In Your Backyard Project

In Your Backyard Project: Because Screw You, Evil

We are so engulfed in fear and violence that we are allowing ourselves to be manipulated to believe that some lives matter and others… not as much. We are allowing an imposter, a well-intentioned but misled Good, to take the wheel and barrel down anyone who is in the way of our search for Evil, all the while Evil smiling because when we stoop to Evil’s level we become Evil ourselves, no matter how good our intentions. This isn’t a statement about Syria or Paris...

The Terrible Idea or a Life-Changing Moment

There are things we agree to in life that we know are terrible ideas; ideas you could feel in your gut are not the right move for you, but you make them anyway. I’m smack in the beginning of my terrible idea. But what if these terrible ideas aren’t terrible ideas at all? What if these terrible ideas are actually moments of clarity dressed in wolf’s clothing; lessons to learn, aha moments. Could terrible ideas actually be life-changing moments disguised...

The Crossroads of Deal Breakers and Settling

” He was tall, handsome, a pilot…and he talked through every movie we went to. I just couldn’t do it anymore.” – Lisa Hachey   After just writing about this not long ago on Expat Village, imagine my inner giggle when I opened up the next question in the queue of questions that I’ve been answering to find “What’s Your Deal Breaker?” Recently, I wrote about how dating my Husband helped me to get past deal breakers, alluding to the idea that...

A House Divided

This weekend as I was cruising down the supermarket aisle with Husband, I began having a spasm attack. No need to worry; it wasn’t painful. It was more of a mental crackdown that went something like this: Husband: Jen, do you want to get the eggs and bacon or the chicken and avocado?Me: Huh?Husband: Eggs or chicken? Which do you want to get?Me (tossing my head down to the cart being totally over the top dramatic): neither. I don’t want...